Lets see…. October 23rd 2017 was 365 days ago. Consider the obvious… what did you learn? What has changed? How can these life lessons be shared with your friends and family? That is for you to decide.
Career Complacency
Something that can not, should not, and will not be tolerated in my day to day. Ever. Anyone that knows me, knows I despise an unhealthy work place.
Rewind to last fall. Walking into a 60,000 square foot building filled with individuals(including myself), who found themselves dragging themselves into a place of unhappiness. Racing through traffic to a place where their time and energy were clearly unappreciated.
So after months of restless nights and headaches I finally began asking myself, why do this? To maintain quality of life? What about your personal sanity and well-being? The cons certaily overshadowed the pros, and I took it among myself to do something about it.
Message: Never let a wage dictate how you are treated. EVER.
Family values
Being the oldest in a family can have its perks… First one to get a Sega, spoiled beyond measure, etc… Other side of that; Hidden responsibilities that one could only imagine.
With age you become a mediator, mentor, secret holder, and a balance beam. Would I ever trade it? Hell no.
Family is love. Family is therapy. Family is work.
Message: Embrace family cautiously. Your feelings can be overlooked if boundaries are outlined poorly.
Incongruent Relationships
Definition of Incongruent – affecting the components of an alloy or other substance differently.
Such a meaningful word.
Positive, fun, encouraging, etc. These are words that have been used to describe my life for years. One word that has also been used and has also proven time and time again to be my kryptonite, is passive.
Being passive can have its advantages: Steers you clear of conflict, keeps my blood pressure down, and no grey hairs(yet).
Though this passive behavior is an easy route, I can admit it has blinded me of how individuals can sniff this out and milk this to their advantage.
In relationships being passive reminds me of windshield wipers. Yes, windshield wipers. Why? Everyone loves them and appreciates them… .when it’s convenient. When there is no rain or snow, we really do not have a love or hate for them. No one appreciates the true value of them until it’s time for their primary function.
If I had to pick? I think I want my relationships to be treated like a tire. We are ALWAYS looking at them, making sure they are FULL and HEALTHY. Hoping they get us to our destination safely, and will do whatever is necessary to keep them rolling(pun very intended). We are always cautious of any bumps in the road the tires could absorb. See what I mean?
I think I will leave you with that, for now. Do some self reflection on how you value, and are valued by your family, friends, and coworkers.
For me, I will be working, exercising, and calibrating all of the above.
Cheers,
Cort